Find a Warm Place and Build

A few weeks back I spoke on a Career Panel with my mentee’s mentees who participate in a program called NYU Reaching Out. It is a mentorship program for high school girls created by a group of NYU Opportunity Program students. The other panelists and I shared advice on how to position yourself for success in college and in your career. One of the panelists had this suggestion to share: to find your warm place. This is not a hippie way of saying go where you’re comfortable, but rather surround yourself with like-minded, supportive individuals.

In recollection of my own path, I found “warm places” in various organizations including Management Leadership for Tomorrow (MLT), NYU Opportunity Programs and WEST just to name a few. They all supported and invested in my growth in different ways, which prepared me to become the person I am today, and supports my continuous evolution. MLT provided a warm place for me to grow as a professional, NYU OP provided the warm place for me to grow as a student and WEST provided the warm place for me to grow as young woman. While I greatly owe my foundation to my amazing mother, these groups greatly influenced my capacity to build and achieve my goals.

Women of Excellence, Strength and Tenacity, Inc. (WEST) consists of young women who are college students, graduate students and young professionals. We also coordinate a mentoring program for 5th grade girls at The Harriet Tubman Learning Center (PS 154). We meet in Harlem and participate in monthly community service projects and social events. We are a 501(c)3 nonprofit entity with a very bold mission to empower women, regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation or social status.We work to develop the gifts, talents and leadership abilities of all young women as they become  influential voices in the global world. This year I am proud to say that WEST and I will be springing forward at our 3rd Annual Empowerment Conference. As an active member for 3 years, I look forward to our event themed “Triumph Over Trials”. Rightly named, nothing worth having is easy, and the ladies of WEST have certainly worked hard for the past 2 conferences leading up to this one. We expect double the attendance of our first event, and we have extraordinary guest speakers including Liz Black, Phyllis Yvonne Stickney and Erica Ford.

Workshops include Declaring Financial Independence, Building Quality Relationships from a Male’s Perspective, Women in Media: MissRepresentation and many more.

On Saturday, March 31, 2012 join us while finding your warm place and build!

 

 

 

No Traffic

Ladies, no one can steal your lane.

I gained quite a bit from this simple statement at the 1st Annual WEST Retreat. Earlier this month, I participated in The First Annual Women of Excellence, Strength and Tenacity (WEST) Retreat at New York University. WEST is a non-profit organization for women’s empowerment  and this year the NYU chapter successfully hosted its first retreat. The event began with light breakfast, expectations for the day and interactive activities then ended with lunch and guest speaker, Ms. Tanea Smith, CEO of She’s Got Papers.

It was an amazing experience for growth and sisterhood. When I went in I told the group I wanted to be reborn. I know it’s deep, perhaps abstract, but my intent was to leave with a different perspective on my multifaceted woman-ness. I am a friend, a daughter, a cousin, a professional, a mentor and a mentee.

Fortunately my expectations were mett. I felt as though throughout the day various aspects of me had been revived and reborn. I recounted a childhood memory, threw out the negatives and dreamed with a group of tenacious young women. I left content with high spirits. The best takeaway was during the open forum with Tanea in which she said if you’re doing your own thing then don’t stress because “no one can steal your lane”. Tanea is always an incredible speaker. Her point stuck with me as I questioned how to manage doing my own thing while preventing people from knowing then stealing my every move.  I internalized her response, confidently accepting the fact there’s no traffic when you’re in your own lane.

Often, we get so caught up in the rat race, we lose sight of what makes us unique in our own right and separates us from what some might call ‘competition’. I found myself trying to create a delicate balance between protecting and sharing my ideas and accomplishments out of fear that someone could walk away with my empire, all that I have built. I worried as if someone could literally bottle up everything I’ve done, said and thought, and run away with it! After letting some wise words of advice settle in, it came to me what should be obvious to all aspiring thought leaders and success seekers, no one can steal your passion.

When you are passionate about something there is expertise and drive behind it which no other human being can take from you.

 

Stay Relevant

When my girls and I find a moment to connect the general consensus always seems to be “girl, I’ve been running around like a chicken with its head cut off!” Aren’t we always running? And damn if it doesn’t feel good to be occupied, active, accessible and in demand. Sometimes, that’s just the way to be.

For example, on Thursday, October 6, I attended Advertising Week, an annual advertising and marketing event gathering numerous thought leaders, innovators and associates. It is a platform for the industry to engage across media, culture and business at all-day events in various locations over the course of a week. As a representative for my company and my passion, I attended the event as a young Black marketing professional interested in leveraging the network and the knowledge at hand. My panels of choice were focused on the burgeoning of multicultural consumers and the evolution of the general market. It was invigorating to meet, hear and speak to so many passionate media professionals.  During that same day I replied to a few emails back at the office then I left to catch up with a colleague and speak at a general meeting for my women’s organization at NYU, WEST. That too, was refreshing. The conversation at hand was “Working Women”, and I felt more than honored that I was invited to speak to a group about a transition I made literally within the past six months! As the current President introduced me to the group, I realized I had not only shifted positions from student to professional, but my mindset had also changed.

Often during my last semester I prayed for God to:

1. Allow me to end on the same GPA

2. Continue guiding me in the right direction…. It worked!

Everyone wonders what the next step will be, but students ponder the consequences: I’m graduating but will I have a job? I have a degree but will I make a salary? I’m a woman, will I have equal pay? I’m studying bio will I be a doctor?!

I say of course you will. God has not placed you in such a position to squander all that is in front of you. At the age of 19 (not too long ago!), I developed this strong sensibility that if I have the tools, resources, prayers, and ability then I have what I need to pursue my desired goals. It was almost right after my first year of college I thought:  Ok, I think I have this results thing on lock.

I channeled this newfound energy to the fullest extent by attending every career fair, info session, panel and interview. I wasn’t affected by the concept of consequences because I knew I came this far, results were imperative not optional. Right after graduation, I took the reins on my weight and sleeping habits as well. Bye, bye famous frosh 15! Went HAM in the gym dancing and jogging. A rapper once said “don’t do it for the man, men never notice”. He’s right. After catching up on sleep, catching up on burned calories and really focusing on yourself holistically you’d be astonished at how content you are with who you are and what you’re doing.

Answering every concern and question the girls had, I thought about the times when I was most uncertain and understated my capability. Being occupied by work and events conjoined with being active in my community, the gym and my home has afforded me satisfaction and faith in my situation. In most cases, I do not doubt outcomes but I work to position myself for the best possible outcome. We are in charge of the results. The phrase “Actions speak louder than words” is factual. You think you can’t/won’t do something; Do it then see what happens, don’t be surprised if you do it right and achieve what you set out to accomplish.

Get in where you fit in and deep dive into your passion!