Happenings in Your City: Body Ecology’s FREEBIRTH at WOW Cafe Theater in New York

If we women are to get basic, then surely the first job is to find out what liberation for ourselves means, what work it entails, what benefits it will yield -Toni Cade Bambara

In the preface to her seminal collection, The Black Woman: An Anthology, Bambara asserts a call to arms. “Get Basic!”, she tells us daughters of Diaspora. We are basic when we confront our complexities. We are basic when we radically challenge oppressive forces with love. We are basic when we (re) claim spaces for ourselves. These spaces most certainly include our bodies.

In this tradition of reclamation (and proclamation), The Body Ecology Performance Ensemble will debut RingShout for Reproductive Justice: FREEBIRTH at the WOW Cafe Theater in New York City. Honoring the creative, spiritual, scholarly, and radical lived experiences of black women, The Body Ecology Performance Ensemble is getting basic through a variety of artistic mediums.

RS4RJ is dedicated to utilizing integrated cultural arts-based processes to explore the personal, political, spiritual, creative, economic and environmental factors impacting the reproductive health of black girls and women. – The Body Ecology Performance Ensemble

FREEBIRTH premieres Friday March 9th at 7pm with an encore performance on Saturday March 10th. Tickets are $10 in advanced and $15 the night of each performance. PURCHASE TICKETS HERE! WOW Cafe Theater is located at 59-61 East 4th St., 4th Floor in Manhattan.

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Start Strong, End Strong

The other day mama told me, “ How you start is how you end up”.  I loosely interpreted her advice in the context of dating. If you start with a work in progress you will end up continuously working on this man you have chosen to invest your tireless energy, intelligence and creativity.

Due to motherly instinct, women often find themselves in positions where they want to help and develop others. Nonetheless, you can’t be everybody’s mama! When you meet a nice young man the first thought should not be how can I help him grow, but how will we grow together. If the pace seems lop-sided, it is more than likely not worth your time. It is no woman’s responsibility’s to develop a man’s inadequacies. You will not be happy and neither will he, as he will be doing more work than ever to play catch-up (that’s if he cares to rise to the occasion).

If you date men with the hopes of developing them into the men you want to be, when and if you marry you will be raising your husband and children. You will find yourself instilling values in your children, teaching your children while your husband learns along with them! Given, as adults you both have a foundation, but again based on that imbalance of the pace at which both of you grow it will be a cumbersome and disappointing lifestyle. On the other hand, you start by welcoming, dating, conversing, and surrounding yourself with positive, progressive people you position yourself for nurturing balanced relationships.

Admittedly the pickings are slim in most major cities: NYC, Chicago, D.C., Atlanta and L.A., but this is where the strength, positivity and progression of the individual come into play. Don’t taint your beautiful mind with media buzz around Black women being undateable because you know what for every article and video clip about said topic I see four or more recently married couples in Jet magazine, within my own family, and amongst my colleagues at work. Whether you want to marry or get to know someone be assured the possibilities are there. Afford yourself the peace of mind that media is a microcosm of reality, when you leave your house it is your own doing whether you stop traffic or go invisible. Game recognizes game, and although you may not bag everything you set your eye on you are still getting noticed for better or worse. Every day is a new day. Starting the day upbeat with a welcoming attitude will not drain you but it will invite others to join you in your jubilation. Especially if you’re a young woman such as myself it’s pumping through our vanes!

I am not forgetting the fact that at times we attract someone from the far left who is completely and entirely incompatible, that should not be a downer, just smile and keep it moving! You never know behind that man yelling “hey light skinned, I like that dress” could be the man who is worth your time, but you were too frowned up to welcome him into a conversation. If you want to end up with a man similar to the likes of your beauty, intellect, ambition and attitude, it starts with you.

Stay Relevant

When my girls and I find a moment to connect the general consensus always seems to be “girl, I’ve been running around like a chicken with its head cut off!” Aren’t we always running? And damn if it doesn’t feel good to be occupied, active, accessible and in demand. Sometimes, that’s just the way to be.

For example, on Thursday, October 6, I attended Advertising Week, an annual advertising and marketing event gathering numerous thought leaders, innovators and associates. It is a platform for the industry to engage across media, culture and business at all-day events in various locations over the course of a week. As a representative for my company and my passion, I attended the event as a young Black marketing professional interested in leveraging the network and the knowledge at hand. My panels of choice were focused on the burgeoning of multicultural consumers and the evolution of the general market. It was invigorating to meet, hear and speak to so many passionate media professionals.  During that same day I replied to a few emails back at the office then I left to catch up with a colleague and speak at a general meeting for my women’s organization at NYU, WEST. That too, was refreshing. The conversation at hand was “Working Women”, and I felt more than honored that I was invited to speak to a group about a transition I made literally within the past six months! As the current President introduced me to the group, I realized I had not only shifted positions from student to professional, but my mindset had also changed.

Often during my last semester I prayed for God to:

1. Allow me to end on the same GPA

2. Continue guiding me in the right direction…. It worked!

Everyone wonders what the next step will be, but students ponder the consequences: I’m graduating but will I have a job? I have a degree but will I make a salary? I’m a woman, will I have equal pay? I’m studying bio will I be a doctor?!

I say of course you will. God has not placed you in such a position to squander all that is in front of you. At the age of 19 (not too long ago!), I developed this strong sensibility that if I have the tools, resources, prayers, and ability then I have what I need to pursue my desired goals. It was almost right after my first year of college I thought:  Ok, I think I have this results thing on lock.

I channeled this newfound energy to the fullest extent by attending every career fair, info session, panel and interview. I wasn’t affected by the concept of consequences because I knew I came this far, results were imperative not optional. Right after graduation, I took the reins on my weight and sleeping habits as well. Bye, bye famous frosh 15! Went HAM in the gym dancing and jogging. A rapper once said “don’t do it for the man, men never notice”. He’s right. After catching up on sleep, catching up on burned calories and really focusing on yourself holistically you’d be astonished at how content you are with who you are and what you’re doing.

Answering every concern and question the girls had, I thought about the times when I was most uncertain and understated my capability. Being occupied by work and events conjoined with being active in my community, the gym and my home has afforded me satisfaction and faith in my situation. In most cases, I do not doubt outcomes but I work to position myself for the best possible outcome. We are in charge of the results. The phrase “Actions speak louder than words” is factual. You think you can’t/won’t do something; Do it then see what happens, don’t be surprised if you do it right and achieve what you set out to accomplish.

Get in where you fit in and deep dive into your passion!